Personal, handwritten thank-you letters are the most appropriate and courteous way of thanking your guests for the presents they have kindly given. Here’s a few points to remember regarding the etiquette and conventions of wedding gift thank you notes and cards.

Etiquette

The two rules of etiquette in relation to thank-you notes are that, firstly, every gift no matter how large or small should be acknowledged in writing. And, secondly, you should be prompt.

Personal, hand-written notes or cards are most courteous. Emails are not a suitable means of conveying your thanks – and don’t even think about texting!

You should send your note as soon as possible but try not to write all your thank you letters at the same time. For one thing it will be quite a chore and, also, you could fall into the trap of writing the same thing to everyone concerned
Conventions

Convention used to dictate that it was the bride who wrote the thank you notes but, nowadays, it’s quite acceptable for both new husband and wife to complete the task. This also makes the notes more original and helps to tailor the message to the appropriate individual concerned.

Don’t forget to show appreciation to other people who have helped in your wedding preparations either. Someone who didn’t attend the wedding may have assisted you in some way and they should be thanked also.

You should also thank anyone who sends you a telegram on the wedding day (although, if this was sent by email it’s acceptable to respond by email also), your attendants and your suppliers..

Thank You Notes

Points to remember:

• Personalise your note and mention the gift;
• Pre-printed thank you cards are OK so long as a written note is included;
• Don’t tailor your note to the value of the gift – each gift giver deserves the same courtesy;
• If you received money or vouchers, say what you have used the cash or vouchers for;
• If you didn’t’t like the gift, or plan to exchange it – keep this to yourself and express your thanks – it’s the thought that counts after all!