Gift Giving Traditions
The tradition of gift giving dates back many years and has many origins. Gifts are often given to celebrate events in one’s life and a wedding is a prime example.
It is customary to give a gift to celebrate an event in one’s life. Marriages are a prime example of this. With weddings, from the time the couple announces their engagement to the end of the wedding reception, gift giving etiquette and formalities can be confusing.
The Engagement
Engagement parties are becoming less common nowadays although some families still do have them. Guests invited to your engagement party are not obliged to buy a separate gift for this although there may be some confusion regarding the giving of a wedding gift or engagement gift at this time.
While people may wish to buy you a present on your engagement it is not obligatory. Some guests may think they are expected to give a wedding present at this time and some may think they have to buy two separate gifts.
It’s a good idea to give your guests some help here – perhaps by wording your invitation thus:
‘Your name & Your Fiancé’s name would be pleased of your company to celebrate our Engagement. Please note that gifts are not expected at this time, you’re presence is all we require on this special occasion’.
The Hen or Stag Night/Weekend
In the US the Bridal Shower is a traditional time for giving gifts. The story goes that a couple a long time ago who were deeply in love, but did not have the money to marry. Friends and family gathered together to ‘shower’ the couple with gifts so that they could begin their life together.
In the UK, the hen party or stag party is a time to celebrate the last days of freedom and gifts are not usually received at this time. although the giving of token gifts or saucy novelties is becoming popular.
Gift Lists
Traditionally, the gift list is sent at the same time as the invitations, by the host (usually the Bride’s Mother).
Although it is customary not to send out a formal gift list – your guests are expected to ask the host – it is quite acceptable these days to do so. People live much busier lives these days and will appreciate the convenience.
Gifts should be acknowledged after the wedding and thank you notes should be handwritten and be personal to the giver.
The Wedding Day
It is traditional for the marrying couple to present their attendants and each other with a gift. Customary gifts of watches, jewellery and engraved silverware are most popular for all ages and genders.
Favours
The tradition of providing your guests with a table gift or favour has become ever popular. The ritual began in Italy where they are known as Bomboniere and are presented in elegantly designed boxes or lace nets and contained five sugared almonds, symbolising health, wealth, happiness, fertility and long life.
Favours make perfect table decorations and can be co-ordinated to match your theme and colours on the day.
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